The Eve Code

As the old saying goes, don’t judge a book by its cover. This week, I had the opportunity to read Mariett Ramm’s “The Eve Code.” I have to admit that going into it I had some preconceived notions, but I was humbly proven wrong in those assumptions. 

Understanding and Acceptance 

One of the first things that took me by (pleasant) surprise were the references to Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching. In the Tao, Lao Tzu attempts to uncover the mystery of the origin of gender. By understanding yin and yang, we can come to understand the differences between “manly” and “womanly.” From there, Mariett Ramm discusses different ways to understand today’s woman. Naturally, understanding can then lead to acceptance. Self-acceptance plays a key role in becoming your own chief empowerment officer. 


Another key idea that Mariett Ramm discusses is self-awareness. We are reminded that we all have a unique blend of traits that may be viewed as good or bad. We need to start by being aware of all of our traits so that we can self-reflect objectively. This self-reflection may include forgiving ourselves for our imperfections and acknowledging our successes when we truly deserve them. Some of the ways that we can become more self-aware include:

  1. Practicing mindfulness in order to become more aware of our inner state of being
  2. Becoming a good listener, which could help us avoid self-destructive thinking
  3. Journaling thoughts or ideas can help open vulnerable places within yourself
  4. Gathering sincere feedback from others can be helpful (With this though, we want to be sure the feedback is not just a projection onto ourselves from the other person)

Being self-aware can help us to realize our strengths as well as our weaknesses.


For our psychological health and well-being, it is important that we realize our ability to make choices and manage our own lives. Self-determination allows us to feel that we have control over our lives. Without this, many of us would feel unmotivated to take any action, especially if we feel that we cannot have an effect on an outcome. In general, we are motivated to grow and change when our needs for competence, connection, and autonomy are fulfilled. 

There is so much more to “The Eve Code,” than the ideas presented here. I came to the conclusion of this book feeling empowered though, not just as a woman but also as a human being. 

Thanks for reading!

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